Discovering my identity in changing times…
Its like a trend starts, picks up momentum and blows right past the point of balance and so it turns around and does the same thing in the opposite direction- Like a pendulum, swinging from side to side. Life is always in a state of motion and changes direction all the time. Now the question is… How do I believe I stay stable in motion? I believe true stability is not in the absence of change, It is the ability to maintain balance in a changing world. As an individual, the challenge is to develop a strong inner sense of balance that is not easily disrupted by changing external influences. When I feel balanced in my life, my sense of identity is not threatened just because circumstances have changed. Meaning- I’m both adaptable and stable at the same time. By recognizing this and appreciating my own set of unique resources, strengths, values, and abilities, I then started to spend some time figuring out Who I Am as a person and connect with that person. I believe that some us have lost touch with our creative self by allowing the roles we play to define Who We Are as a person when it should be the other way around. From this perspective, the winds of the change can easily throw us off balance. I started to then think about outside influences that can throw me off. ( One example )
1. Associates- The attitude of close associates may have a powerful influence on my personal ideas and beliefs. Their opinions can actually precondition me to view things the way they do. I may value their opinions so much that I subconsciously adapt their viewpoint without any personal experience.
My life and its many pursuits should be an expression of my most cherished dreams and values. Not the ones dictated by others. I find that some people choose a life that is based on external criteria. They end up following a path that leads away from the expression of their True Self and then with each step, they actually distance themselves from the life they truly long for. Circumstances and friends have a way of changing. Sometimes they support our dreams and passions and other times they provide a challenge. So I keep my dreams alive in the face of challenging circumstances, this requires that I know Who I really Am and What I really want. Once I’m in touch with my True Self, the changes around me become much less influential, instead of my identity being anchored to external forces, it remains safe and secure no matter which way the winds of change decides to blow.